Chapter 3: The bottom line is that we are sinners from the inside out…literally. It begins with the sinful proclivities of our heart to suppress truth and it ends by manifesting itself in perverted thought and action.(Rom. 1:18-19) When it comes to porn, the fundamental purpose is lust. This happens by objectifying the person being viewed and thereby perverting the dignity in which God has created them and perverting your own God-given-dignity to participate in a holistic relationship that God intends for marriage. Therefore, Scripture gives several commands against such lust. 1. God’s men should not commit adultery (Ex.20:14) 2. God’s men should not covet their neighbor’s wife even if her clothes leave little to the imagination (Ex. 20:17). 3. God’s men should not participate with prostitutes who use their bodies as a commodity to be rented for a good time or a good photo (Prov. 23:26-27;1 Cor. 6:15-16) Fourth, God’s men should not be polygamous. Fifth, God’s men should not be fornicators (1 Cor. 6:9-13).
“The problem is ‘in you’. If is from the sinfulness of your heart that lust and sin proceed like sewage from a culvert. This is the painful, unvarnished truth.”…”Jesus is normal and the rest of us are abnormal sinners with indwelling sin. Our individual lives and the corresponding collective lives we call culture are simply the outward reflection of the inner condition of our hearts.”
Chapter 4: Marriage is that one relationship in which the standard of beauty is to be found. Men are to have eyes only for their wives and their wives are to be their standard of beauty. Yet Prov. 27:20 speaks of the sinful eyes of men that are never satisfied. Porn is the outcome of such sin. It inevitably creates a reduced view of beauty and relationship, and hence, it creates a dissatisfaction in which no single woman can satisfy. However, Prov. 5:18-19 encourages the husband to find complete satisfaction in one – his wife.
Furthermore, Prov 11:22, 31:30, Heb. 13:4 reminds us of the gross beauty of loose women, the grand beauty of a woman who fears God and a reminder of our accountability before God for how we give ourselves to others. Driscoll concludes chapter four noting the need of men to view other Christian women as sisters in Christ. Men who have problems with porn often cannot even correctly engage in a conversation with an attractive Christian women because they have programmed themselves to see women only through sexual lenses. “If God’s men did view women as sister, they would see the naked girls they lust after as beautiful sisters in need of dignity and grieve as if their little sister suddenly became a stripper.”
Chapter 5: I will leave this chapter for your own reading; it gets graphic. A couple things to consider, 1.) We must emphasize our accountability before God, as redeemed sinners still influenced by sin. 2.) Sex in marriage can, and often does, become an idol, and 3.) Your heart is ridiculously deceptive.
“The problem is ‘in you’. If is from the sinfulness of your heart that lust and sin proceed like sewage from a culvert. This is the painful, unvarnished truth.”…”Jesus is normal and the rest of us are abnormal sinners with indwelling sin. Our individual lives and the corresponding collective lives we call culture are simply the outward reflection of the inner condition of our hearts.”
Chapter 4: Marriage is that one relationship in which the standard of beauty is to be found. Men are to have eyes only for their wives and their wives are to be their standard of beauty. Yet Prov. 27:20 speaks of the sinful eyes of men that are never satisfied. Porn is the outcome of such sin. It inevitably creates a reduced view of beauty and relationship, and hence, it creates a dissatisfaction in which no single woman can satisfy. However, Prov. 5:18-19 encourages the husband to find complete satisfaction in one – his wife.
Furthermore, Prov 11:22, 31:30, Heb. 13:4 reminds us of the gross beauty of loose women, the grand beauty of a woman who fears God and a reminder of our accountability before God for how we give ourselves to others. Driscoll concludes chapter four noting the need of men to view other Christian women as sisters in Christ. Men who have problems with porn often cannot even correctly engage in a conversation with an attractive Christian women because they have programmed themselves to see women only through sexual lenses. “If God’s men did view women as sister, they would see the naked girls they lust after as beautiful sisters in need of dignity and grieve as if their little sister suddenly became a stripper.”
Chapter 5: I will leave this chapter for your own reading; it gets graphic. A couple things to consider, 1.) We must emphasize our accountability before God, as redeemed sinners still influenced by sin. 2.) Sex in marriage can, and often does, become an idol, and 3.) Your heart is ridiculously deceptive.