5 Points of Rebuke: Your either selfish or a servant! But fundamentally your selfish!
1.) There is not a servant understanding in our church of sex and marriage which is an underlying Christian virtue for all of life that leads to selfishness which is ultimately the root of abuse as people are takers and not givers.
2.) There is a common misperception that everyone is an exception to the biblical rule according to our extenuating circumstances.
3.) There is no relationship for many between God, marriage, sex, and children as being related together.
4.) There is a strong pressure for us as church leaders to legitimize people's sinful lifestyles and when we refuse there is strong personal vengeance as they want us to both bless their sin and their sense of righteousness so as to appease their guilty conscience.
5.)People want to know what is acceptable and is not acceptable so as to get as close to sin as possible without a deep concern for the heart motives that drive their ethical decision making.