Religion: My self-view swings between two poles. If and when I am living up to my standards, I feel confidnet, but then I am prone to be proud and unsympathetic to failing people. If and when I am not living up to standards, I feel humble, but not confident- I feel like a failure.
My identity and self-worth are based mainly on how hard I work. Or how moral I am and so I must look down on those I perceive as lazy and immoral. I disdain and feel superior to 'the other'.
Gospel:
My self-view is not based on a view of self as a moral achiever. In Christ I am simultaneously sinful and lost yet accepted in Christ. I am so bad he had to diei for me and I am so loved he was glad to die for me. This leads me to deeper and deeper humility and confidence at the same time. Neither swaggering nor sniveling.
My identity and self-worth are centered on the one whwo died for His enemies, who was excluded fro mthe city for me. I am saved by sheer grace. So I can't look down on those who believe or practice something different from me. Only by grace I am what I am. I've no inner need to win arguments.